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Dr. Diane Poole Heller presents…

A Free Masterclass (with Q&A)

Building Healthier Relationships:

How to Navigate Conflicting Attachment Styles

Learn how attachment theory can help you and your clients navigate conflict, deepen intimacy and promote repair for any type of relationship.

In this FREE, 90-Minute Live Training, you’ll learn how to…

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Identify the Influence of Attachment Styles on Adult Relationship Patterns

Explore how to recognize insecure attachment style dynamics—and learn how they contribute to unhealthy communications patterns in adult relationships.

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Improve Therapeutic Awareness and Attunement

Develop greater awareness and attunement, where you operate from a place of secure attachment for yourself…so you can be more aligned with clients’ needs and create a sense of safety during clinical sessions that supports and facilitates more effective healing, repair and resilience.

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Support Couples in Crisis with Practical Clinical Strategies

I’ll share simple strategies and exercises you can share with clients to teach empowering language and communication skills that resolve conflict, promote repair, improve intimacy and strengthen secure attachment.

Plus, get instant access to a FREE BONUS GIFT when you register…

It’s my way of saying THANK YOU!

LANGUAGING OF ATTACHMENT STYLES

95 Phrases to Help Clients
Move Toward Secure Attachment

When our threat response becomes activated—especially during conflict—we move out of the part of our brain that is oriented to connection.

This practical guide maps out language and phrases to use with each of the four attachment styles so you can strengthen secure attachment skills, amplify safety and calm your clients’ threat response to help them repair conflict and improve connection.

Feel free to share this worksheet with friends, family and colleagues.

Download your free PDF copy immediately after you register for the live training!

Join Us! Register Now for Free Training…

Building Healthier Relationships:

How to Navigate Conflicting Attachment Styles

Learn how attachment theory can help you and your clients navigate conflict, deepen intimacy and promote repair for any type of relationship.

Can’t attend live?

Register now and we’ll send you a free replay recording.

How can we help clients repair relationships more easily and effectively?

As therapists, we often see individuals or couples at the lowest point of their relationship…

So it’s likely they’ve spent years with unhealthy patterns and destructive behaviors—reacting to and lashing out in hurt, sadness, fear and anger.

As a result, frustration and resentment can build up, creating a pattern of trauma and conflict that hinders productive communication, exacerbates negative emotions and all but shuts down opportunities for healing and repair.

Unraveling these deep-rooted patterns can take time. And even the most seasoned therapists can feel frustrated and doubt themselves when clients are stuck in a cycle of misattunement, discord and unhealthy emotional patterns of behavior.

The truth is—unless your clients are both willing to work on their relationship and you have proven tools, interventions and corrective techniques to help the couples work through their emotional wounds…

…the healing might never happen.

The good news is that attachment styles aren’t set in stone. We’re all capable of healing and change.

No matter how long you’ve been in practice—relationship therapy is hard. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed or even helpless when we can’t “fix” a relationship that’s breaking (or that seems broken beyond repair).

The problem is that adult relationships are so varied, complex and nuanced—what we’ve learned in theory doesn’t always translate into the ability to know how to apply it in a pragmatic and methodical way.

The good news is our brains are already wired for secure attachment. But our clients can’t do it alone. Humans are not wired to heal in isolation…we’re wired for connection.

This is why the work you do is incredibly important and why we must continue to add and refine skills in our clinical “toolbox.”

The best way to support healthier, more secure attachment communication skills is to help our clients know and understand the root of their insecure attachment adaptations.

When we can integrate attachment theory into clinical practice, we can better facilitate understanding, change—and most importantly, healing.

“As we familiarize ourselves more with secure attachment, our relationships become easier and more rewarding—and as we heal, we increase our capacity for love.”

Dr. Diane Poole Heller

This Free Masterclass Is a Must Attend If…

Join Us! Register Now for Free Training…

Building Healthier Relationships:

How to Navigate Conflicting Attachment Styles

Learn how attachment theory can help you and your clients navigate conflict, deepen intimacy and promote repair for any type of relationship.

Can’t attend live?

Register now and we’ll send you a free replay recording.

About Dr. Diane Poole Heller

Diane Poole Heller PhD, is an internationally recognized speaker, author and teaching expert in the field of adult attachment theory and trauma resolution.

Dr. Heller’s signature approach—DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repaterning experience)—provides individuals and clinicians with simple strategies, relevant skills and a practical framework that supports and facilitates healing from trauma and attachment wounds.

Through various training programs, books, lectures and her own work as a clinical therapist, Dr. Heller has helped countless people worldwide in their healing journey as they experience greater intimacy, wholeness and find fulfillment in relationship.

She believes that when we heal ourselves first, we heal our families, our communities and the world as a whole.