Join Dr. Diane Poole Heller for…
ATTACHMENT STRATEGIES FOR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
Learn how to navigate the complexities of adult attachment system dynamics––and foster a healthy relational space that restores secure attachment, improves communication and promotes deeper connections.
Save your spot today! Enrollment for this course is only open every other year.
- Enrollment closes October 5, 2022 at 11:59 pm PT
If early attachment wounds contribute to problems in adult relationships…
How do we help our clients heal when they’re suffering?
In infancy and early childhood, our environment and experiences form an imprint on our developing brains.
Unfortunately, when a child’s needs are unmet—or a caregiver is a source of overwhelming distress—relational trauma occurs in the context of a relationship with another person.
These early beliefs and perceptions can carry over to adult life and relationships, meaning adults with early attachment wounds may find themselves behaving, feeling and thinking in ways they don’t quite understand.
That’s because implicit memories––when triggered in the present—don’t seem like they’re in the past. They feel like they’re happening NOW, in the present.
Which means we react as if we are back in the original situation, especially when we feel threatened or neglected in our current relationship.
That’s why as therapists, we often see individuals or couples at their lowest point.
Overwhelming experiences can break down vital connections—with ourselves, the physical world around us, and with others.
When we feel broken, hurt, angry or uncared for, it can be difficult to recognize our own needs—let alone to find the right language to express our emotions to others.
As a result, we continue with these patterns of behavior that while helping us cope in the moment, cause further suffering and trauma.
That’s why it’s so important for us––as therapists––to create a healthy relational space…for ourselves and our clients.
The good news? We can all learn how to help ourselves and our clients strengthen secure attachment skills to help us heal from early attachment wounds, allowing us to create a deeper level of trust, intimacy and mutual connection.
What If You Could Draw From Attachment Theory to Address Relational Trauma & Promote Deeper Connections?
Research suggests that as much as 90% of conflict and issues that arise in adult relationships can be traced back to early attachment experiences.
Attachment theory gives us a framework to understand how the past shapes our present relationships and gives us a practical approach to address deep-rooted patterns, no matter the complexity.
The good news is that humans are relational beings… and healing happens in the very place the initial attachment wound occurred—in relationship. We rarely heal in isolation, which is why your clients can’t do this alone…
When you understand how early relational wounding contributes to adult attachment system dynamics, it’s possible to address old emotional wounds and help yourself, and clients, move towards more loving and secure connections.
Everyone deserves to feel cared for and whole. Our early attachment wounds should never prevent us from connecting more deeply with others.
Transform early perceptions of broken connections into genuinely fulfilling and meaningful relationships…
- Repattern broken connections and resolve emotional wounds to help yourself, and your clients, regain a sense of safety, trust and wholeness.
- Tailor clinical sessions using proven interventions that honor the needs of each attachment style, and allow your clients to feel safe, seen and heard.
- Teach your clients empowering language, equipping them to communicate their needs more clearly, resolve conflict and feel confident in their progress.
- Learn how to work from a place of secure attachment, giving yourself greater confidence in your ability to stay fully present and attuned to the needs of each attachment style dynamic.
- Apply a structured framework to therapeutic sessions that allows you to uncover and address the root cause of relational trauma and challenging adult attachment system dynamics.
- Move people beyond traumatic experiences, restore secure attachment and promote healing in any type of relationship.
The power of attachment theory is it can be applied to any type of relationship: romantic, friendship, work…even parent-child dynamics.
Join Dr. Diane Poole Heller for…
ATTACHMENT STRATEGIES FOR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
A 6-week online course in the Attachment & Trauma Mastery Program
Learn how to navigate the complexities of adult attachment system dynamics––and foster a healthy relational space that restores secure attachment, improves communication and promotes deeper connections.
What’s included?
6 Downloadable Training Module Videos + Weekly Live Calls (with Q&A)
Each week, you’ll get access to pre-recorded training videos, including audio and transcripts, as well as a LIVE 60-minute call with Dr. Heller, featuring a Q&A session.
The first four sessions will focus on building your attunement and creating a safe therapeutic space before learning the specific language and needs of each attachment style.
In the final two weeks, we turn our attention to helping clients move away from the past and strengthening their secure attachment skills.
We close the program by showing you how to apply theoretical insights into practical exercises and interventions you can integrate into clinical practice immediately.
- Module 1: Building a Foundation of Secure Attachment
- Module 2: Creating Safe Haven, Trust, Boundaries & Regulation
- Module 3: Attachment & Needs: Secure, Avoidant & Ambivalent
- Module 4: Attachment & Needs: Disorganized
- Module 5: Working with Encapsulated Child States, Memory & Dissociation
- Module 6: Developing Secure Attachment
- SPECIAL PROGRAM BONUS: Two LIVE 60-minute Integration Sessions with DARe-trained practitioner Jennifer Jonell
Our program kicks off with our first live call on September 28, 2022 at 11 am MT
Can’t attend live? All calls are recorded and posted to your personal learning portal within 48 hours, where they’re yours to keep for the life of the program.
+6 LIVE Weekly Training Calls and Q&A Session with Dr. Heller
Each week, you and your colleagues will join Dr. Diane Poole Heller for a 60-minute live call where we learn an experiential exercise, review the week’s teachings and discuss client demos.
At the end of the calls, there’s always time set aside for your questions and answers.
+ Special Program Bonus: Two LIVE 60-minute Integration Sessions
NEW! Join DARe Practioner, Jennifer Jonell for two, LIVE 60-minute integration sessions.
Jennifer will demonstrate PROCESS WORK with course participants—sharing insights, answering questions and showing you how to integrate the work into everyday clinical practice.
Audio + Written Transcripts of Online Training Videos
All training videos and client demos are accompanied by both audio and written transcripts, giving you the option to listen—as well as have the written copy in hand.
Download (or print) the transcripts and use them for reference and note-taking.
“The exercises were great! The specific, clinical ways of working with the different types of attachment were revealing and transformative. There were very clear explanations of attachment styles and dynamics of what happens as the person separates from the wound pattern. What wonderful work you are bringing to the world!”
– A. Morris
Led by Dr. Diane Poole Heller
Here’s what’s in the training curriculum
Includes practical demonstrations, corrective exercises, strategies and resources that improve the effectiveness of your clinical skills.
All LIVE weekly sessions meet online for 60 minutes on Wednesdays from 11 am - 12 pm MT
(With the exception of October 12th and November 2nd, when we’ll meet for 2 hours—the second hour will be set aside for our special BONUS Integration Sessions with Jennifer Jonell)
MODULE 1: September 28, 2022
Building a Foundation of Secure Attachment
We’re all biologically wired for connection to others, which means we have the ability to return to our innate secure attachment––regardless of our attachment style.
In this week’s module, we’ll review each attachment style––how they’re formed, how they relate to brain function and how they present in adult relationships.
We’ll focus on how to interface with different attachment adaptations as we work to strengthen secure attachment skills and integrate them into everyday life.
- Gain a deeper understanding of how insecure attachment adaptations formed in early childhood relate to brain functions and adult behavior patterns.
- Learn strategies that resolve emotional wounds rooted in insecure attachment styles so you begin to move clients back toward secure attachment.
- Discover new resources you can share with clients to help them return to security when stress or trauma prompts insecure patterns to resurface.
- Learn exercises to practice and teach clients that strengthen secure attachment skills and can be applied to a variety of social interactions.
MODULE 2: October 5, 2022
Creating Safe Haven, Trust, Boundaries and Regulation
When our threat response becomes activated––especially during stress or conflict––we move out of the part of our brain that is oriented to connection.
How do we bring people out of threat response so they can connect with one another?
In this week’s module, we’ll discuss how to utilize language and implement exercises tailored to each of the four attachment styles, so you can improve relational attunement that establishes trust and safety in therapeutic sessions more effectively.
- Discover why trust in relationships––including the therapeutic relationship––is the foundation for safety, secure attachment and transformation.
- Learn how different attachment styles relate to their own and others’ signal cries differently, and why this affects behavior patterns and emotions.
- Watch real-life case examples that show you how to interpret a client’s physical positioning and reaching out response, helping you identify root issues and facilitate deep healing.
- Cultivate secure attachment by integrating exercises into therapeutic sessions that promote regulation, safety, protection and mindfulness.
MODULE 3: October 12, 2022
Attachment & Needs: Secure, Avoidant and Ambivalent
Plus, BONUS 60-minute Integration Session with Jennifer Jonell
The health of a relationship depends on how well we can recognize and express our needs in order to receive love from others.
In this week’s module, we explore our relationship to needs––and how what we learned in childhood contributes to dysfunctional relationship patterns in adult relationships. We’ll also explore ways to tailor your clinical approach to meet the needs and language for each attachment style.
- Gain in-depth knowledge on how avoidant and ambivalent attachment adaptations communicate and interact within the context of relationship to others.
- Learn why common relationship combinations––such as the frequent pairing of an avoidant and ambivalent partner––can contribute to communication pitfalls.
- Discover how to identify secure attachment in a relationship, while supporting and strengthening consistent communication and safety for ourselves and our clients.
- Teach avoidant/ambivalent pairings how to communicate more openly, reassure their partners and foster a loving, nourishing relational space.
MODULE 4: October 19, 2022
Attachment & Needs (Part 2): Disorganized
Because disorganized attachment stems from intense fear––often as a result of childhood trauma, neglect or abuse—adults with this style of insecure attachment often present with a history of self-sabotaging relationships, even though they have a deep desire for intimacy.
In this week’s module, we examine the disorganized attachment style more extensively… including how to distinguish disorganized attachment in relationships (from avoidant or ambivalent) and how/when to apply relational interventions that balance self-awareness of the self and other.
- Examine why the threat response and drive for survival becomes entangled with the attachment system—making it more difficult for people with disorganized attachment to express their needs.
- Learn how to recognize and unravel disorganized attachment patterns in relationships from avoidant or ambivalent tendencies.
- Learn clinical interventions that balance mutual awareness of the self and other—and help clients communicate more effectively to overcome negative effects on their relationships.
- Integrate relational interventions for disorganized attachment into your therapeutic sessions to encourage mindfulness and support a return to secure attachment.
MODULE 5: October 26, 2022
Working With Encapsulated Child States, Memory & Dissociation
Encapsulated child states—or implicit and explicit childhood memories that fragment the adult self—when reactivated, can exacerbate trauma symptoms and contribute to unhealthy relational patterns, behaviors and emotions.
In this week’s module, we zero in on the core wounds that create insecure attachment adaptations in the first place.
We’ll introduce you to a variety of clinical interventions and healing techniques that free the encapsulated child state, resolve attachment wounds and help clients return to a sense of wholeness.
- Understand which language you should avoid in therapy when working with encapsulated child states to avoid reactivation and further trauma.
- Learn therapeutic interventions that help you stay present and attuned, allowing you go at the pace dictated by your client’s ability to stay engaged and process the memory.
- Create a stronger relational field as you work with encapsulated child states to reassemble and integrate fragmented memories of traumatic events.
- Work more confidently and effectively with highly reactive or dissociative clients, as you support and strengthen their ability to self-regulate and alleviate their suffering.
MODULE 6: November 2, 2022
Developing Secure Attachment
Plus, BONUS 60-minute Integration Session with Jennifer Jonell
Once you have all the fundamental knowledge, you’re ready to incorporate new skills, techniques and interventions to help your clients move towards secure attachment in their adult relationships.
In our final module, you’ll see what a healthy relationship should look like on an everyday basis, what can stand in the way of secure functioning––and most importantly, how to help support and sustain secure attachment in a healing journey toward greater intimacy, wholeness and resilience.
- Use the attachment perspective to (re)define interdependence, co-dependence and independence for each attachment style in terms of healthy adult relationships.
- Balance attachment with autonomy and differentiation.
- Navigate the tentative, vulnerable period as clients begin to heal––supporting them as they begin to practice healthier new habits and learn how to communicate in relationships.
- Learn how to stop clients from returning to abusive or unhealthy relationships––and help them break the pattern of behavior or emotions that keep pulling them back.
- Support clients more effectively as they heal from attachment wounds, repair misattunements and discover greater intimacy, trust and joy in their relationships.
Don’t miss your chance to join Attachment Strategies for Adult Relationships.
Enrollment for this course only opens every other year.
Enrollment closes October 5, 2022 at 11:59 pm PT
Plus, You’ll Get These Special Bonuses…
BONUS #1
NEW! Two 60-Minute Integration Sessions with Jennifer Jonell
During two live bonus sessions, DARe-trained practitioner, Jennifer Jonell will facilitate Process Work with participants to demonstrate how to integrate the course material into everyday clinical practice… including therapeutic interventions, corrective exercises and additional tools, strategies and resources.
You’ll get a chance to discuss clinical case examples, ask questions, share insights and see how Dr. Heller’s powerful attachment framework—the Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience (DARe)—provides therapists (and their clients) with skills that break unhealthy relational patterns, restore secure attachment and support deeper connection, meaning and joy in adult relationships.
Live sessions meet two times for 60 minutes immediately after our regular weekly session with Dr. Heller:
• Bonus Session #1: October 12, 2022 at 12 pm MT
• Bonus Session #2: November 2, 2022 at 12 pm MT
And don’t worry if you can’t make it live.
Both bonus sessions will be recorded and posted to your personal learning portal within 48 hours, where they’re yours to keep for the life of the program.
BONUS #2
Two Trainings with DARe Trainer and Trauma Therapist—Patti Elledge
Patti Elledge serves as an approved session provider and case consultant for the DARe Certificate Program—and has specialized in the therapeutic application of neuroscience for over 40 years.
In these recorded video sessions, Patti explores how to quickly recognize and identify adult attachment styles so you can develop clinical skills to help clients manage conflict and strengthen connections in relationships.
VIDEO #1
How Attachment Styles Interact in Adult Relationships
- Learn how to quickly identify attachment styles—plus, tips to help individual attachment styles navigate conflict as it arises.
- Recognize how avoidant/avoidant couple combinations differ from avoidant/ambivalent couples.
- Understand what happens when relationship goes from “electrifying” to “terrifying” because one partner has a history of disorganized attachment.
- Learn the neurobiology behind each of the insecure attachment styles.
VIDEO #2
Recordings of Live Demos / Q&A
- Understand how to repair missed connections––and learn the importance of re-establishing safety in therapeutic sessions.
- Learn what is meant by left-to-left processing vs. right-to-right connection, so you know when to use meaning-making and talking vs. attunement and resonance.
- Learn strategies for tracking self and how to follow a person’s body cues as to what is happening in the present (during sessions) vs. the past.
Includes access to video and audio training.
You’re protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education and clinical practice.
Try the Attachment & Trauma Mastery Program: Attachment Strategies for Adult Relationships course 100% risk-free.
If, for any reason, you don’t feel it meets your needs, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team within 7 days of the course start date (on or before October 5, 2022)—and we’ll happily issue you a refund.
“I so appreciate both the theory and the practice. What you demonstrate teaches us so much that will facilitate repair and re-orientation. The attachment wounds/repair information is truly the foundation—and as you say—the “pay dirt” of our work. “
– P. Atkinson LCSW-R, New York
Is this the right training for me?
You could benefit from this course if…
- You're an experienced therapist already working with individuals, couples or families and you want to grow your practice using additional methods and interventions that foster a healthy relational space.
- You're newer therapist or mental health professional who wants to gain confidence and integrate corrective exercises, strategies and interventions into your everyday practice so you can navigate the complexities of attachment system dynamics.
- You already work with couples in a therapeutic setting and need a structured framework that helps you get to the root cause of relational trauma so you can heal emotional wounds more easily and effectively.
- You're a relationship therapist, social worker, pastoral counselor or life coach encountering particularly challenging cases and you need additional tools, skills and modalities to help your clients overcome their struggles within relationships.
- You've noticed a pattern of unhealthy and emotionally challenging behaviors either in yourself, your relationships or in your clients-and feel like you might benefit from exploring the ways people attach to each other in their relationships.
- You're a mental health professional who needs a deeper understanding of relational trauma so you can learn how to stay attuned, build trust, create a safe environment and help clients participate more fully in the healing process.
Don’t miss your chance…
Learn directly from Dr. Diane Poole Heller in this in-depth course that’s only offered every other year!
- Enrollment closes October 5, 2022 at 11:59 pm PT
This program is designed to teach the fundamentals of attachment theory—in such a way that you move beyond theoretical concepts and receive real-time, hands-on training from one of the foremost experts in healing attachment and trauma.
Learning Objectives
At the conclusion of this course, participants will be able to:
- Identify and describe three qualities for each of the insecure attachment adaptations––and how these manifest specifically in adult relationships.
- Explain and describe the needs and autonomy issues for each attachment style: do clients reject, deny, exaggerate or avoid needs (and why)?
- Demonstrate three contact exercises for interactive regulation.
- Explain how to apply one specific method for working with the encapsulated child: (a) contact other ages and ego states; (b) move the painful experience(s) through time, so that the frozen-in-time past memories no longer intrude into the present and usurp energy and attention from the here and now; (c) give space for integration into the adult self.
- Describe and explain two corrective antidotes or transformative healing processes that enhance regulation for disruptive relationship patterns.
- Identify three types of differentiation: (a) from the family field; (b) in the maturing relationship; and (c) linkage.
- List and describe three characteristics of securely attached adults.
- Explain and describe two ways to assess a client’s relationship needs.
- Identify two relationship needs that relate to each of the four attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent and disorganized.
- Describe two exercises to facilitate self-orientation for the avoidant attachment adaptation.
- List three possible adult relationship challenges for the avoidant attachment adaptation.
- List three possible adult relationship challenges for the disorganized attachment adaptation.
Ready to take the next step?
Here’s everything you’ll get in…
ATTACHMENT STRATEGIES FOR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS
Learn how to navigate the complexities of adult attachment system dynamics––and foster a healthy relational space that restores secure attachment, improves communication and promotes deeper connections.
LIVE Weekly Sessions with Real Client Demos
Six, LIVE 60-minute Interactive Sessions (+ Q&A) with Dr. Diane Poole Heller
Join Dr. Heller for 6, LIVE 1-hour online sessions that include teaching review, real client demos (to show the work in action), experiential exercises and plenty of time for Q&A.
Participate live or download the replay recording at your convenience if you cannot make the scheduled time. Learn concepts, frameworks, techniques, practical exercises and ways to apply the work to everyday practice.
Six Video Training Modules
Each week you’ll get access to a recorded training module that provides the foundation of attachment theory so you can better understand how to foster a healthy relational space—and begin to learn corrective exercises, skills and strategies that help our clients heal and thrive.
Your Own Course Portal with Downloadable Access to Video, Audio, Transcripts & Bonus Resources
Every live training will be recorded. The recorded replay will be available in video, audio and written format, so you’ll be able to access content 24/7/365.
If you miss a training session, want to download transcripts and use them for reference and note taking—or want to watch the trainings at a later date—you’ll be able to do so at your convenience.
The course portal is also a terrific place to ask questions, grow your network and receive support directly from Dr. Heller.
PLUS, get these
SPECIAL BONUSES!
Learn how to navigate the complexities of adult attachment system dynamics––and foster a healthy relational space that restores secure attachment, improves communication and promotes deeper connections.
NEW! Two LIVE 60-minute Integration Sessions with Jennifer Jonell
Join DARe Practitioner Jennifer Jonell for TWO extra, 60-minute LIVE integration sessions on October 12, 2022 and November 2, 2022.
It’s your chance to see Process Work in action, ask additional questions, review resources, share insights and learn how to integrate the weekly teachings into your clinical practice.
Two Trainings from DARe Trainer and Trauma Therapist—Patti Elledge
Join Patti Elledge, a DARe Trainer and Practitioner for two video sessions that help you further develop your clinical skills as you work with clients to manage conflict and strengthen connections in relationships.
Includes video and audio recordings of:
• How Attachment Styles Interact in Adult Relationships
• Recordings of Live Demos w/Q&A
You’re protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education and clinical practice.
Try the Attachment & Trauma Mastery Program: Attachment Strategies for Adult Relationships course 100% risk-free.
If, for any reason, you don’t feel it meets your needs, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team within 7 days of the course start date (on or before October 5, 2022)—and we’ll happily issue you a refund.
Frequently Asked Questions
How can we help you decide?
This program is ideal for both novice and experienced therapists, life coaches, bodywork practitioners and other mental health or behavioral professionals who work with both individuals and couples in a clinical setting—and who need a pragmatic and proven approach to skillfully and lovingly guide clients back to secure attachment so they can experience more healthy and fulfilling relationships.
In this course, you’ll get powerful insights and learn skills that can be used to improve communication, deepen intimacy and heal early attachment wounds for any type of relationship.
Both. Each weekly live session will be streamed live via Zoom online on Wednesdays at 11 am MT. Additionally, you’ll be able to submit questions each week (and during the live session), which includes time for Q&A.
There are also two integration sessions—led by DARe practitioner Jennifer Jonnell—where you have the opportunity to submit a case study or personal challenge for Process Work, ask questions, discuss clinical case examples and share insights with colleagues.
Weekly teaching material has been pre-recorded by Dr. Diane Poole Heller, so that you may review it at your own pace in your personal learning portal.
Of course! All of our Attachment & Trauma Mastery Program courses includes access to ALL training materials, including video and audio recordings, transcripts, worksheets, exercises, demos and bonuses for the lifetime of the program.
The only thing you cannot download are client demos—because we need to honor and respect client privacy and confidentiality.
We would love to you to join each session live, but if you are unable to do so, all sessions (including the Q&A) are recorded, so you can still receive all the information and coaching you need.
Additionally, the course materials (including audio recordings, video recordings and transcript from each session) are yours to download and keep in your professional reference library. This will be useful for some sessions that you will want to listen to or watch more than once.
Again, the only thing you cannot download are client demos—because we need to honor and respect client confidentiality.
Yes, we’ve structured the training in such a way that we don’t just talk about theoretical concepts—we show you how to apply them. You’ll be able to watch client demo videos and participate in LIVE Q&A sessions, where Dr. Heller answers your specific questions and provides you with practical tips and techniques you can integrate into everyday clinical practice.
We’ve also added a new opportunity to get additional help and support—with two, LIVE BONUS integration sessions, led by DARe practitioner Jennifer Jonell.
It’s a unique opportunity to to submit a case study or personal challenge for Process Work, ask questions about the course material or clinical examples and discuss techniques and interventions.
You may also submit questions directly to Dr. Heller via your personal learning course portal (Kajabi).
The time most people spend varies because of individual learning styles and preferences. Most of our students tell us they spend an average of 2-3 hours per module (per week) outside of our 60-minute LIVE sessions.
We also encourage everyone to work at their own pace—and at the very least, join us for the two integration sessions where we’ll walk through a participant’s case study example live, discuss the course material and answer your top questions.
Yes, this course covers the same content and learning objectives as our live, DARE, 3-day training—but in a different format.
This Level 2 course, Attachment Strategies for Adult Relationships, is an online, self-paced course within the Attachment & Trauma Mastery Program, which includes additional bonus resource material and weekly live calls with Dr. Heller.
Additionally, you get access to ALL training materials, including video and audio recordings, transcripts, worksheets, exercises and demos for the lifetime of the program.
We do offer a limited number of partial scholarships for students who attend an accredited university. Reduced enrollment rates are also available for those with limited resources in countries defined as low and lower middle income by the World Bank. Please feel free to contact us for more information.
If you have additional questions or need technical support, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team for help.
We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education, personal growth and clinical practice.
If you enroll in Attachment Strategies for Adult Relationships and you decide to withdraw from the course for any reason, you may cancel your participation within 7 days of the course start date and request either a full refund or credit for a future course.
You must make this request in writing on or before October 5, 2022. Refunds will be issued in the same form of payment made and may take up to four weeks to process.